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A NEW JOURNEY. LIFE BEGINS AT 40..

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A HISTORIC DATE, 1 MARCH 2014. 25 YEARS POST-CML, 40 YEARS OLD AND RE-MARRIED.

It was not an easy journey for me to reach this age. In fact, it is a big achievement for me to be able to reach the age of 40 from once, expected to only live for 3 years. I have gone through various challenges with studies, health, businesses, friends and even marriage. When I was an undergraduate, I had to defer my graduation when I failed a subject having had a relapse of my leukemia during my final year university. Born in a family where there is nothing more important than education, the feeling of having to re-take a subject was almost similar to death.  But I graduated from Buckingham University before I turn 21 years old. Yes, I expedited my studies with intensive degree course because I wanted to start working and start making money but there is no way I can do that without a degree (force majeure by/but thanks to dad). 

My health first failed me and took half of my teens away being in hospital while all other teenagers were having a time of their life. My health failed me again during my final year university but from being bed-ridden, now I have ran 9 full marathons, 1 ultra marathons and countless less-than-a-marathon distance races. I have also climbed Mt Kinabalu thrice and many other one day trip peaks.

Before I turned 40, I have also graduated from the school of hard knocks having gone through 2 recessions as a businessman (which I sweat and cried blood) and many failed business ventures but now I am a proud owner of a few successful establishments. I have been betrayed by business partners and my right wing senior people, cheated by people I cared and taken for a ride by many but it gave more meaning to the few that are still around and is enough to replace them all. I have lived my life chasing dreams which had costs me my first marriage and I have learn to cook, mop the floor, raise a child, do own laundry and especially be a better person.... all this experience gained during the Duda-hood being a divorcee.

Everything in our life happens for a reason.

From the failed health, studies, business and marriage, I became that person that you befriend today. I would not have made it without the support, encouragement and understanding especially from my parents, sisters and brother (I cant stress enough the power of family supports). There is nothing more important than a strong family relationship. I have to say thank you too to Miss Kimi aka CML aka Chronic Myeloid Leukemia whom has taught me the essence of living and the importance of time. If I never went through that relationship with Kimi, I would never see life the way I do now but please don't come back, stay away from me.


At this age too, I have stopped smoking all form of tobacco. I was on 3 packs of cigarette a day and cursed the government everytime sin tax was increased. Now I want the government to increase it even further. At 40, I feel so much closer to Allah swt having lead prayers with my son and new wife at most fardhu prayer.

At 40, I have found the women who truly understands and inspires me. She brings out the best in me and now, I am living my dream. Thank you Anny Chunraem. I am also thankful to my 13 years of past marriage that had mature me into a bigger person and a more responsible husband. With this marriage, I hope to blow more candles together until our last breath. I want to joke and laugh until we are in tears and I want to be by your side through sickness, illness and pain because I know without the slightest doubt that you will do the same.

Thank you too especially to Dr Malek Aziz, Farhanah Bamadhaj, Abu Lais Walli Mohamed, Anita Ahmad, Dato Wira Prof Dr Khairil Anas, whom has always been there for me. Not to forget all the hundreds of greetings and well wishes for my birthday and my wedding on 1 March 2014. Thank you for being there in my quest for better health, happiness and love. I pray for Allah to blessed you with more than what Allah swt gave me for only Allah swt can repay all your kindness, affection and love.

Last but not least, my deepest apology for not being able to invite everyone for my wedding reception especially most friends, relatives and my extended family at the Bootcamp. Being 40 years old, I am too impatient and too old to take a test drive or what do you call that... dating/ courtship period? When I see the women that I love, I cant wait and had to immediately asked her hand for a marriage, and could not wait for the normal process of printing cards and do a proper invitation. We plan and held everything (from an otherwise 6 months of proper planning) within a month since the proposal, akad nikah and reception. There were no cards and invitation was only done by SMS/whatsapp and phone calls to family members, close relatives and business partners/associates. I owe everything to my darling sister Rose Emini Pahamin for most of the errands and running around for the reception. Thank you Emi... You dont know how much I love you.

p/s- I appreciate all the greetings, wishes and doa from everyone and I hope you dont mind me sharing by copying & paste them here in this blog. So it will last forever for my children, grand children and their grandhildren to read. Sincerely, I cherished every words written.

Thank you.


2 March · Edited ·


1 March 2014. Life begins at 40..
Check our my handsome best man Aaraf Pahamin Armin, and the gorgeous princess Kasih Leia Ixora Azhar. Special thank you to all my sisters Chempaka Emalin Pahamin, Melor Edina Pahamin, Teratai E Pahamin, Especially Rose Emini Pahamin, my brothers Azhar Sulaiman, Amnan Pahamin, Mohammed Rhiza, Shazrul Asari, Shamsul Adnan. My extended brothers Abu Lais Walli Mohamed, Dr Malek Aziz, Dato Wira Prof Dr Khairil Anas and all the brides maids nieces & nephews Kasih Iris Leona Azhar, Andika Rees Pahamin Azhar, Raina Rhiza, Raiqa Rhiza, Raisa Rhiza, Shazrai Shazrul, Sharhy Shazrul and to my beloved father Pahamin Rajab & darling mother Zainab Pahamin.. Special thanks to my professional photographer cum couzin EddiePutera Ahli Gambar & Crew.. A big huge bear hugs and a huge thank you for all your help on my most memorable reception.
— with Aaraf Pahamin Armin, Anny Chunraem and Kasih Leia Ixora Azhar.
Malek Aziz posted to‎Armin Baniaz Pahamin 
My brother Armin Baniaz Pahamin this is the 'speech' which I was supposed to deliver last nite! " This man that I speak about is one person bigger than life itself.If he calls u 'brother', u r indeed very blessed cos he will look out for u, care for u and to some extend fight for u.My experience of Armin; he's one man who doesn't let his ego gets in his way like most people do. I hv seen people who think they can outdo this man,took what he hs built and left him with literally nothing yet when he hears of that same person in grief, he goes out to console him!

Armin isn't afraid of hard work, bouncing ideas all the time, sharing,discussing things personal or not and what's amazing is he's open suggestions & opinions when given.


We share few things in common; our passion for good health & fitness, our desire to live life fully esp after our having gone thru a medical challenge. Actually I see a lot of me on him in my younger days: of surviving that dreaded cancer, being blessed with one son AND being given a second chance at happiness .Maybe that's why we click!
 

Nothing stops this man but only one- his father. A wonderful son to his parents and a great brother to his siblings.Speak ill of them....u r lucky to be left alive!! He's also a dotting dad to his son; be it in a business meeting or not, when Aaraf calls he would actually pick up the call.
 

A true leader who leads by example, a brilliant businessman, a fantastic friend and most of all an awesome brother. How can one not love u Armin!
 

My wish for u and Anny Chunraem all the happiness life has to offer, great health, abundance and may this union be one that satisfies u, comforts u and pleases u here n after.
 
Congratulations n take care my wonderful brother."
— with Anny Chunraem and Armin Baniaz Pahamin.
 

Photo: My brother Armin Baniaz Pahamin this is the 'speech' which I was supposed to deliver last nite! " This man that I speak about is one person bigger than life itself.If he calls u 'brother', u r indeed very blessed cos he will look out for u, care for u and to some extend fight for u.My experience of Armin; he's one man who doesn't let his ego gets in his way like most people do. I hv seen people who think they can outdo this man,took what he hs built and left him with literally nothing yet when he hears of that same person in grief, he goes out to console him! Armin isn't afraid of hard work, bouncing ideas all the time, sharing,discussing things personal or not and what's amazing is he's open suggestions & opinions when given. We share few things in common; our passion for good health & fitness, our desire to live life fully esp after our having gone thru a medical challenge. Actually I see a lot of me on him in my younger days: of surviving that dreaded cancer, being blessed with one son AND being given a second chance at happiness .Maybe that's why we click! Nothing stops this man but only one- his father. A wonderful son to his parents and a great brother to his siblings.Speak ill of them....u r lucky to be left alive!! He's also a dotting dad to his son; be it in a business meeting or not, when Aaraf calls he would actually pick up the call. A true leader who leads by example, a brilliant businessman, a fantastic friend and most of all an awesome brother. How can one not love u Armin! My wish for u and Anny Chunraem all the happiness life has to offer, great health, abundance and may this union be one that satisfies u, comforts u and pleases u here n after. Congratulations n take care my wonderful brother."
 
Ilyanna Aylin:Happy belated birthday to you abe yaz and may Allah bless your new journey with your beautiful partner with lots of love and happiness.


Eta Yuneta:Happpy birthday Armin Pahamin@arminn ..selamat pengantin baru!!!!!!

Monica Fung : Congrats Armin and Anny! Best wishes :)

Priscilla Joo Han Goh: Congratulations. .. Happy always...

Rosniza Mohamad: Selamat mendapat menantu baru kepada abe Min Pahamin Rajab n kak Nab Zainab Pahamin...with Raja Bahren Rosniza Mohamad Teratai Pahamin Haneem Ab Rahman Anuar Mohamad abe Din Hjh Noriha...cikja & uncle Sham harap Yaz Armin Pahamin n wife Anny bahagia ke hujung nyawa....muahssss

Diyana Anuar: Happily married on the day he turns 40. Happy birthday Abe Yaz and heartiest congratulations to you and Kak Anny. You make a beautiful couple and I wish you a beautiful and blessed journey ahead.

Kenanga Simonposted to‎Armin Baniaz Pahamin: 
Wishing you a very joyful and remarkable Birthday, Armin

May Allah SWT bless you with everything which you desire
And follow you in every step you take

Have a blessed Birthday
Smiles and laughter, joy and cheer
New happiness that stays throughout the year
Hope your birthday brings all these and more
Filling life with surprise and joys galore
Have a blissful and prosperous birthday

‘And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years’
~Abraham Lincoln


Suriani Halimposted to‎Armin Baniaz Pahamin
Happy birthday old chap...made a cake on your birthday..but since you diet..I baham ajelah...
 

Zafrul Ismail created a greeting card.
Armin Baniaz Pahamin Happy Birthday :)

Wan Malek shared a status.1 March
dipagi yg damai ini
marilah sama2 kita ucapkan
selamat hari jadi yg ke 40 kpd sahabat saya dan juga mereka yg mengenali beliau
iaitu YBhg En Armin Baniaz Dato' Pahamin
Presiden PEDA Malaysia
semoga dipanjangkan umurnya
dimurahkan lagi rezekinya
dan sentiasa sihat walafiat sepanjang masa
amin

Kitson Foong shared a link. 1 March
Dearest Armin Baniaz Pahamin, Birthday salutations from me to you .. God bless you this and everyday as you journey forward in faith! http://youtu.be/J1OlwYJ364k